Taking Responsibility

I’ve heard it said that if you make a mistake for an excuse you have made another mistake. I firmly believe this. You need to understand that you are to blame for all that has happened to you and where you are in life. Your choices or lack of choices have put you right where you are. There is no one to blame but yourself. So take responsibility for yourself and start making the right choices. As an example, before I met my wife I was a healthy 185 lbs. Shortly after meeting my wife I gained a lot of weight and have been hovering at the 240-250 lb range ever since. I made the unfortunate excuse that I was content with life and didn’t need to worry about it anymore. I stopped playing sports and ate what I wanted. I chose to put myself in that position. It is my fault. Not my relationship with my wife, not with the fact that food was readily available. It was simply my fault. I own up to that. As mentioned in a previous post I dropped out of my Master’s program in computer science. I had multiple excuses and none of them had to do with me. My father-in-law died, I had 4 year old twins running around, I had a full time job, I was a hockey coach. The list was endless. The real reason was I feared failure, which was also in another post. It was my fault and my fault alone. Fortunately there were not any negative consequences for dropping out. I still had a job and I was still considered a decent computer scientist. The point I’m trying to make is that we need to admit when we are wrong and do the right thing and agree that we are the cause of where we are in life. Once you have done this you are liberated from where you are. You can start making progressive steps to where you want to be! The economy is not crushing your dreams to start a business for example, you are. Your perceived lack of education is not why you can’t get a better job, it’s your lack of motivation to educate yourself that is holding you back. These are just a couple of examples. Now for the key to all of this. You need to forgive yourself of all the mistakes that put you in this position. There is no need to beat yourself up over it. The thing to do is forgive and move on. Start taking those steps that will get you to where you would like to go. Trust me you will be free!